I was in a steady relationship for 8 years before I was diagnosed with cancer but for many it can be a lonely, isolating experience. I had a loyal, loving caregiver that stood by me and never left my side, even when it resulted in a PTSD diagnosis for him after my out of left field diagnosis. This is something that I later found out can be a luxury amongst survivors. Apparently, it is common for significant others to leave after a diagnosis, many wait until there is a remission status so they can stave off a little of the guilt but it can be hard for everyone involved when it comes to being a caregiver.. On the flip side, cancer does not make you feel sexy. You often feel weak and struggle with your own inability to do the things you want to do. If you are single when you are diagnosed, it may be hard to go back into the dating scene. It is difficult enough to meet good people when you are 100% healthy. When do you bring up being a survivor? How do you handle the follow-ups and the possibility of reoccurrence? It is a tricky, tricky world and since I have no firsthand experience in it, I will refer it completely to better qualified websites as well as refer everyone to the great book Everything Changes- a superb book about having cancer as a young adult. It deals with real issues in real survivors firsthand accounts. I hope these sites help you in your journey to find love or just a good time.
Sex and Cancer has been addressed in several books out there, it is a topic on Stupid Cancer forums as well. However, if you want more, here you go! This is an issue that I did deal with when I was sick. My sex drive was almost nonexistent. I had painful stretch marks all over my body. I could barely get out of bed by myself and there is nothing sexy about not being able to actually PARTICIPATE in sex. :-P I just didn’t have the drive I had before and it took a long, long time to get that drive back. It isn’t the same now as it was but I am thankful it is there at all! :-D So, I can and will talk with you about anything you may be dealing with if I am able.
A hard topic to discuss and come to grips with is your own self image of beauty and worth. Cancer will try and take everything away from you. It will make you feel like a shell of your old self. It may be difficult or impossible to look in the mirror and find beauty, but you are beautiful. Every survivor is beautiful. Men, Women, everyone. Below are a few sites that may help with you towards acceptance that you are truly amazing!